I have never understood helicopter parenting. I can barely get through my own day, never mind micromanage two small humans in addition to that. Whenever I win the parenting lottery and have a small window of five minutes of time in my day to pause and look around, I try to watch the world around me because I’m a sucker for human behavior. Because my world revolves around my kids, those behaviors tend to be either that of children or their parents. I’m honestly baffled by the helicopter parenting trend. I just don’t get it.
Studies show that a lot of helicopter parenting can be blamed on the fact that we have too much information at the ready. Social media, research and educational information, parenting blogs and articles, all of it – just information overload. We’re always trying to be the BEST parent, and in doing so, we end up micromanaging down to the finest details, forgetting that we sometimes have to let kids do and figure things out for themselves.
1. Make a “Kid Resume.” Sit down with your child and a piece of paper and write “Jenny is Four, and she can do these things(*)”. Then work with your child to list of all the things she can accomplish at this age. Maybe revisit within six months.
3. Help your child “Get The Picture.” I *loved* this one, from Dawn Arnold of Mazon, IL, mother of a 5-year-old. “I filled a small photo album with pictures of my daughter doing all the things she needs to do in the morning before school, after school, and before bed. Now she follows along every day. It lets her be independent, but the things that I think are important are still getting done.” (*)
(*) Noted from parenting.com article.