Water is fluid, soft and yielding. But water will wear away rock which is rigid and can not yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.

  • Lao Tzu

Resilience is a characteristic that’s intrinsic to human nature. But it needs to be developed and practiced. To be resilient you need to be like water, fluid, soft and yielding. Flowing and fluid to different paths that you find yourself on, soft and yielding to difficult situations to have clear thoughts on how to get through these situations. You can develop and nurture resilience by tempering our thoughts, mindset, perspective and outlook. And as you temper these, you will be able to expand and be less focused on fears and uncertainties, more adaptable to change. To nurture is to foster, stimulate and develop, which means resilience is not immediate but takes time and practice. Practice changing thoughts and mindset to be soft, flowing and yielding through these tips:

  • To be yielding, soft and fluid is to be humble. Humility is another human trait that expands our thoughts and visions. When you let go of pride, which builds walls that impede you from seeing and thinking clearly, you become soft and fluid and ready to spread and expand.
  • With continuous learning and improving on skills and disciplines in chosen fields or interests we obtain new understanding and instill these during times of challenges and changes.
  • Find your sense of purpose by developing personal reason for the meaning of your work and putting it in a larger context to include not just you and your family but also your company, co-workers and community.
  • Expand your network of friends by developing relationships with people from work and outside of work. This builds a strong foundation of support, an important factor in achieving goals, developing viewpoints and facing challenges.
  • Keep your definition of yourself evolving, in terms of work and personal introspection. By continuously evolving, you’ll see yourself shift to different patterns of thoughts and actions.

Rather than just give in to crises and challenges, you can flow into them and come out stronger than ever by staying soft, fluid and yielding like water. Expand your thoughts, perspectives and mindset with resilience and be ready for changes and difficulties. Strength is not found in rigidity and the unyielding but in softness and staying fluid.